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Divorce Attorneys in Utah
If you remember afternoon television in the 80′s, one of the best shows had to be Divorce Court. It was so humorous and painful that you couldn’t look away. It was a precursor to today’s Jersey Shore-type shows.
But at the core of that show was a tragedy: two people in love that now hated each other. I always feared divorce for the simple reason that I never wanted to go through seeing someone I once loved attack me.
Once I became a divorce attorney and actually handled a few divorces, I saw that the television show had been correct: most couples felt hurt and wanted to lash out. When they looked for divorce attorneys in Utah, they wanted ones that would fight to hurt the other side, regardless of the consequences.
How a Divorce Usually Works
In the bulk of divorce cases, the couple splits everything they can think of including custody if there are children. Much of the time, an agreement cannot be reached and divorce attorneys must get involved. It becomes a long, drawn out fight. I recall once sitting at a table, earning $200 per hour for my time, arguing with another divorce attorney who was also earning $200 per hour, over a $60 lamp. The ridiculousness of it was too much to bear. I thought that there had to be a better way to handle these volatile cases.
How Divorces Should Work
I decided I wasn’t going to do that style of divorce anymore. I wasn’t going to spend my client’s hard earned money fighting for trivial things that they were just emotional about. Instead, I adopted the approach that I would be nice to opposing counsel and that we would try and find a resolution that would make both parties happy. I started compromising a little so that the other side felt obliged to compromise too. It was like magic.
Almost immediately, my divorce cases grew less volatile and involved a few simple meetings between the attorneys and the couple to go through all the issues in the marriage and resolve them. Much of the time, my clients didn’t even step foot inside a courtroom.
What I found with this method is that not only were my clients happier, their ex-spouses were happier and opposing counsel was happier. I’ve had several clients comment that they’re glad I went with this approach because they and their ex can now actually have a decent, civil conversation.
If you’re going through a divorce or about to go through a divorce, I highly recommend you use this approach or hire a divorce attorney in Utah that uses this approach. Things will pop up and you will have to interact with your spouse again at some point. It is much better for everyone involved if you can treat each other with respect and simply work through the problems without getting a judge or commissioner involved.
My method is simple: sit down and talk, go through all the issues, draft the paperwork, sign and submit. The vast majority of divorces now go smoothly and with little fighting. Don’t become like one of those people on Divorce Court, screaming your desires at your ex. Hire a good divorce attorney in Utah and let them walk you through the process with respect and dignity. It’ll make your life that much better both in the short and long term.
By Yossof Sharifi
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